Ellen Talk

I am not sure if I already reached the age so I get a strong moral sense and the sense of justice in my heart.

One day morning I just took the bus for work as usual. One old man wanted to get on the bus; however, he couldn’t. One of his legs just could’t prop up its muscle. A girl and I tried to help him to get on the bus. Finally, the old man stood on the bus.

The old man held the handrail and stood in front of the vacancies. I saw the struggling of him. I think he was worried that he couldn’t stand up by himself once he sat down. I did see the fears from his face.

The bus driver was waiting for him. Few minutes later, the old man didn’t sit down. The driver asked him to sit down. The passengers also suggested him sat down. I saw the hesitation from the old man. He wanted to sit, but “couldn’t he”?

我最近是否年紀到了，所以格外有強烈的自我正義感與自我的道德標準。

某天早上在公車上，一位腳不便的伯伯(才剛頭髮全白的那種年紀)想上車，可是一隻腳沒力，一直蹬不上公車。我跟旁邊的女生攙扶他，讓他依著借力使力。

上車後伯伯抓著欄杆扶手，他前面有座位。我看見他的掙扎，我想他是怕這過低的座位，如果坐了，憑一己之力應該是起不來。

司機等了一下，見他沒坐，開口要他坐下。

伯伯一臉猶豫，在那個當下旁邊阿姨叔叔也勸他坐下，可，我想，我懂他的掙扎。

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The driver just raised his voice and said: “Why don’t you just sit down! You couldn’t even stand well.” ― with blame. 

The old man wanted to say something but he didn’t. The driver didn’t close the conversation and he started to talk to another passenger about this issue. The driver just showed his disagreement on those people who didn’t sit down but fell on the bus. The driver said there was an old lady who fell down on his bus, he spent a long time closing the case. He felt a bit angry and innocent from the kinds of things. He blamed the old man again. In public. He didn’t mention the old man exactly, but all the passengers knew he meant that old man.

The old man covered his face with his hands. 

I felt terrible about this situation, I really wanted to stop the driver. I know it’s a 

verbal bullying. The driver not only hurt the old man’s heart but also his self-esteem.

司機忍不住提高音量，我知道他是好司機，但，是老一輩用責罵表達關心的那種。

司機：你趕快坐下！連站都站不好了，還不坐下！

聽到的當下，我看向那位伯伯，他欲言又止。司機沒有要放過他，遂跟旁邊的阿姨抱怨起來，說了之前有乘客跌倒、司機很倒楣的事情。

伯伯，掩面。

我其實當下很想大聲叫司機停止，因為那對一個人來說，是種言語霸凌。更何況，是一位男性，從正常人變成不能自由行走的男人。

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The people were getting more on the bus. When the old man tried to get off from the bus, he took more energy on it. One passenger and the driver got off from the bus to help the old man because he couldn’t stand up. He refused all the assistance and help from others, he sat on the ground. He was fighting with his legs and also fighting with his lofty and unyielding.

I felt sorry that I didn’t stop the driver and let the old man know someone could stand up for him. 

I would say the driver is a good one; however, he chose the wrong way to show his worry to his passengers. Before I got off the bus, I decided to do one thing. I wrote a note to the driver.

“ Dear Driver,

First, I would like to thank you for your kindness to your passengers. Thank you for all the good services and everything to us. Also, I want to thank you to help the old man. 

The old man actually wants to sit down, but he is afraid that he can’t stand up again by himself. He doesn’t want to cause troubles to others. If you can try another way to help your passengers in the future, I believe someone like this old man would be very grateful to you.

Thank you again and wish you a wonderful day!

                                                                                                      A Passenger”

人越來越多，最後伯伯要下車時，又花了更多力氣。路人跟司機都下車幫他，但他已經站不起來。傲氣讓他不想接受旁人攙扶到路邊椅子上，就這樣他坐在那，跟自己的腳搏鬥著、也跟自尊搏鬥著。

我為沒有當下斥喝司機的數落而對伯伯感到抱歉，我應該讓他知道有人會為他出聲的。可，司機也是好人，只是用錯方法。最後，我做了一件事，下車前，我給了司機張紙條。我先謝謝他下車協助了伯伯，但也想讓他知道，若是在那個當下他可以用更友善的方式來代替責罵，那麼這些需要幫助的人們，會真心地感謝他。

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In “Sunrise”, the lyrics said

“I won’t go to my grave, until the difference is made
until the difference is made, until the difference is made
From time to time, there arise among human beings,
people who seem to exude love, as naturally as sun, gives out heat.”

《Sunrise》這首歌寫道：

「情勢改變前我絕不闔眼
    世界需要改變
    從古至今，自然表露出「愛」的那些人，就像太陽一般讓人溫暖。」

We need more empathy in this world.

人們，真的需要更多的「將心比心」。

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